Please do not try to ask and answer all these questions in one night, as one of my friends tried to do. :)
If you were to die today, do you know 100% that you are going to heaven?
Tell me how you know that.
What kind of church do you attend?
Are you actively involved in your church?
How big is your church?
Do they preach in Creek or other
tribal tongues?
Are you involved in other tribal
activities?
How do you feel about your
pastor? Do you respect him?
Why have you stayed single all
this time?
What is your favorite verse in
the Bible and why?
What version of the Bible do you
read?
How often do you lose your
temper?
How important is it to you that your partner be accepted by your family and friends?
How trusting are you?
How do you feel about premarital sex?
How often do you find yourself laughing?
When in a relationship, how much personal space do you generally find you need?
What best describes your parents' relationship towards each other?
What best describes your attitude toward work?
How organized are you?
Financially, how would you characterize yourself?
Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could share with you.
If you could accomplish only one thing during the rest of your life, what would it be?
Describe your spirituality.
What are you looking for in a relationship partner?
How important is it to you that your partner be accepted by your family and friends?
How trusting are you?
How do you feel about premarital sex?
How often do you find yourself laughing?
When in a relationship, how much personal space do you generally find you need?
What best describes your parents' relationship towards each other?
What best describes your attitude toward work?
How organized are you?
Financially, how would you characterize yourself?
Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could share with you.
If you could accomplish only one thing during the rest of your life, what would it be?
Describe your spirituality.
What are you looking for in a relationship partner?
How long was your last
relationship and what caused it to end?
What are you looking for in a
relationship?
Do you have children?
Do you want more children?
Are you a registered Republican, Democrat
or other and did you vote in the last election?
Have you guarded your purity in your singleness?
How do you feel about bi-racial marriages
and bi-racial children?
How do you feel about drinking? Socially or otherwise?
As a single man with the internet at home, are you tempted to look
at pornography?
Would you say that any type of pornography is in your life, be it
the internet, magazines, books you read, or movies you view?
Do you go to movie theatres?
What is your limit regarding viewing movies: G, PG, PG-13, R
or otherwise?
Have you ever been arrested?
Do you smoke or use other types
of tobacco products?
Tell
me about your job, what you do and do you enjoy it.
Does your pastor know you are looking for a mate?
Do you have close guy friends?
Who do you usually hang out with on a "hang out
night"?
What do you and your friends usually like to do for fun?
What is your favorite restaurant?
Have you lived in OKC all your life?
Are your parents alive and do you have a good relationship with
them?
Is your church is liberal or
conservative in their music?
Do you use a hymnbook?
Does your preacher prescribe to one version of the Bible when he
preaches?
Do you laugh often?
How many siblings do
you have? Are you close with all of them?
Do you enjoy cards, boardgames, etc?
How often do you see your
mother?
Are you a dutiful son or a devoted son?
Are you faithful to church for Sunday School and Morning
worship?
Does your church have mid-week services and do you attend?
Are you a faithful tither and giver to missions?
What kind of car do you drive?
What kind of car do you want to drive?
Do you like spicy foods?
How is your health? Do you have any ailments or take
medication?
Do you own your own home?
As a drafter, is your penmanship neat?
Do you cook real food or eat out of a box?
Star Trek or Star Wars?
Sitcoms or Drama?
Far-sighted, Near-sighted, or Astigmatism?
How often do you pray?
What do you pray for?
How open do you feel you can be with your partner in communicating
your wants, desires, or even just discussing everyday life?
Are you lonely?
Or have you been content being single?
Are your parents in good
health?
Do your parents and your brother
know Christ as their personal Saviour? Do they attend church with you?
OU or OSU?
Do you see yourself as being able to spiritually lead a family?
(Or at least willing)
Do you see yourself as being able to read the Bible and pray with
your wife?
Pepsi or Coke?
Would you be willing to attend a marriage seminar (i.e., Family
Life Today) before or after you marry?
Taco Bueno or Taco Bell? (this is an important question in
my family)
Did I ask, do you desire children?
My children aren't necessarily in need of a father at this
age. Is it going to hurt your feelings if they do not acknowledge you as
a father figure? (I'm not saying that can't happen).
Can you love someone else's children as if they were your own?
Tea? Sweet or Unsweet?
If the Lord leads, you would become stepdad to 6 kids and grandpa
to 7--does that scare you?
Do you think you would be jealous if I talked about my husband or
if my children talked about their father? (The 3 younger ones were so
small and have so few memories of him that I try to always tell them things
that he did.)
Toilet Paper - over or under?
And last but not least, are you willing to relocate to Tulsa (I'm
only kidding!)
What has God done for you this week that you
praised Him for?
If you could do one thing over in life, what would it be?
Do you eat breakfast?
Left or right side of the bed?
Do you feel more comfortable in a pair of jeans or a pair of
slacks.
How long have you been at your current job and is this the type of
work you have done all your life?
You never said what the last book was that you read? (You do
read don't you?!)
Do all your friends and family
call you Richard or do you have nicknames?
I fold my all my plastic wal-mart bags
and put them in a box to re-use? Do you think that is weird?
Do you squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom or in the middle?
Do you drink milk from the carton?
Are you an organized person?
Are you a neat freak?
Does dirt or dust bother you?
Do you have any allergies?
Are you a meat and potatoes person or will a salad be ok for
supper?
(ALSO
– ON OUR FIRST DATE – AT THE END – I TALKED TO HIM ABOUT SEX – I CAN’T REMEMBER
ALL THE QUESTIONS BUT IT INCLUDED)
How
many women have you been with? (Of
course, his answer was none, so a lot of my follow-up questions were not
necessary but included….)
Have
you had unprotected sex with women?
Have
you ever been tested for Hep C? HIV? AIDS?
Or felt you should be tested?
Are
there any baby momma’s out there?
Are
you willing to be tested for HIV, HEP C, and AIDS?
Do
you have good feet?
Do
you give foot massages?
Tell me about your
mother - what kind of person is she.
What kind of wife and
mother has she been.
What is your favorite
memory of her.
Tell me about your
dad?
What kind of a husband
is he?
What makes you cry?
What makes you laugh?
Have you ever had a moment that took your breath away? What
was it and why?
What is your favorite color and why?
Do you like to cuddle or do you think you'd like to cuddle?
Does anything scare you?
Rate these in order of importance to you:
Job, wife, God, children, yourself, church, family, friends
Rate these in order of preference: (You don't
necessarily have to be familiar with them just your preference to type of food)
The Olive Garden
LoneStar Steakhouse
The Rib Crib Bar-B-Que
On The Border-Mexican
Ron's Hamburgers
Eggroll Express
McAlester's Deli
Do you have any prayer requests that I can pray with you about?
What are three things that you would like to do together?
What are three things that you would like to do together?
I've included an excerpt from Josh Harris on courtship. It
was the grow and guard statement that got my attention:.
I believe that in a God-glorifying,
wisdom-guided courtship we have two central priorities. The first is to treat
each other with holiness and sincerity; the second is to make an
informed and wise decision about marriage.
In courtship our goals should be to grow and guard. We want to grow closer so we can truly know each other's character, but we also want to guard each other's hearts because the outcome of our relationship is still unknown.
At the beginning of a courtship a man and woman don't know if they should get married. They need to get to know each other, observe each other's character, and find out how they relate as a couple. This is what it means to grow closer. But the fact that the future is unknown should also motivate them to treat each other with the kind of integrity that will allow them to look back on their courtship without regret, regardless of the outcome.
Second Corinthians 1:12 sums up what every Christian couple should be able to say at the end of a courtship:
In courtship our goals should be to grow and guard. We want to grow closer so we can truly know each other's character, but we also want to guard each other's hearts because the outcome of our relationship is still unknown.
At the beginning of a courtship a man and woman don't know if they should get married. They need to get to know each other, observe each other's character, and find out how they relate as a couple. This is what it means to grow closer. But the fact that the future is unknown should also motivate them to treat each other with the kind of integrity that will allow them to look back on their courtship without regret, regardless of the outcome.
Second Corinthians 1:12 sums up what every Christian couple should be able to say at the end of a courtship:
Now this is our boast: Our conscience testifies
that we have conducted ourselves in the world, and especially in our relations
with you, in the holiness and sincerity that are from God. We have done so not
according to worldly wisdom but according to God's grace.
Instead of making engagement the finish line of courtship, our goal should be to treat each other in a godly manner, make the right choice about marriage, and have a clear conscience about our actions.
Let me close this long post by saying....As you get to know each other, do not get the cart before the horse but make sure you really get to know each other and do not blur the lines of friendship with passion without commitment. Be careful to not stir or arouse feelings that cannot be righteously fulfilled. You are special to God and deserve His best.